Use Your Words

Homily, Ordinary Time Sunday 2A

A few years ago, in a small town much like this one or others in South Dakota, a new postmaster arrived in town, so everyone—as they visited the post office to pick up their mail or to drop things off—was introducing themselves. Towards the end of the week, the local parish priest came to pick up the mail for his parishes. He introduced himself and asked how the new postmaster was settling into town, if he was able to find everything he needed, where he was moving from, how their town compared, and other points of interest like the weather. As the priest finished speaking with him and turned to go, the new postmaster said, “Father, aren’t you forgetting something?” The priest replied, “Do I have a package that I need to pick up?”

“Well, no, but aren’t you going to invite me to come to Mass on Sunday?” The priest was sort of embarrassed and said something about not realizing he was Catholic, but the postmaster went on to say, “Just so you know, Father, since I arrived in town, several members of each of the other churches, the Lutherans, the Methodists, the Baptists, I’ve already had several of each invite me to join them for their Sunday worship service, and they didn’t seem too concerned to know whether I was of the same faith tradition or not. They just wanted to share what they found valuable in their own lives. But you know, Father, not even one Catholic that has been through here this week has invited me to join them for Mass on Sunday.”

When was the last time that we shared our faith by simply inviting someone to come to Mass with us, to pray the rosary with us, to come to Confession with us? Have we ever invited anyone else into God’s Wedding Feast, the Supper of the Lamb that we celebrate every Sunday or even every day? In the Gospel today, St. John the Baptist bears witness to One greater than himself, the One who will baptize with the Holy Spirit. John testifies that Jesus is the Son of God. How often do we actually bear witness to Christ in our words and actions?

There’s a popular saying that’s often attributed to St. Francis of Assisi. “Proclaim the Gospel at all times. When necessary, use words.” The problem with this saying, though, is that St. Francis never said it, and it’s often used as an excuse to never proclaim the Gospel with actual words. Our words are necessary. In his day, St. Francis even risked his life to be able to speak to the Muslim king of Egypt, to tell him about Jesus Christ and invite him to be baptized and convert to the true faith. St. Francis used his words to bear witness to Christ, to invite others to the practice of the sacraments, even when this meant risking being put to death and not just embarrassment or awkwardness or what others might think, or any other excuse many of us use to remain silent about Jesus Christ and His Church.

Since my arrival in these parishes, many have commented that maybe now with a new pastor, and with Mass starting on time, maybe we’ll see a lot of parishioners come back to Mass and to Confession. But it doesn’t happen automatically. It doesn’t happen without people inviting them back, inviting new people in. It doesn’t happen without each of us falling more and more in love with Jesus Christ, with this Sacrament of His Body and Blood, with this perfect Sacrifice of the Mass that is not meant to entertain us but to sustain us. Our parishes will not be renewed until each of us realizes that when it comes to the Mass, it’s not so much about whether we’re able to get anything out of it. More important is whether we’re actually able to bring anything to it. Do we offer to God “the prayers, works, joys, and sufferings” of each day? Do we bring the rest of our lives to be offered with Jesus on this altar? And when we receive Jesus Himself in return, what more could we hope for to get out of it?

So what is it that stops you from inviting others in, from inviting others back to Confession, back to Mass? What’s stopping you from actually using your words to talk about Jesus and to share your faith? You might say, Well, Father, that’s your job. But it’s also yours. And I’m just one person. There are people and places that you can reach that I would never be able to reach, in your homes, in your workplace, in your schools, in restaurants, stadiums, and stores. There are ways that you can share the Gospel more effectively and more convincingly than if someone were to hear the same thing from me or from another priest. It’s easy for people to be dismissive of what they hear from a priest. “He has to say that stuff. That’s his job.” But if you were to invite them back to Confession, maybe they’ll listen.

The riches of the Catholic faith are truly meant for all. If there are roughly 7 billion people in the world, and just over a billion Catholics—and of those only a small portion that really believes and practices the faith—what does that mean for us? It means that there are still an awful lot of people in the world that should become Catholic. So, let’s get to work.

The Family God Chose for Us

Homily, Holy Family A

Something that almost all of us have in common, when it comes to our family and relatives, is that we didn’t choose them. We never sat down before we were born, to look through a brochure of available families, before deciding, “Yep, that’s the one, those are the people I want to be stuck with for the first 20 years or so of my life. Those are the people with whom I always want to share large portions of my DNA.” When it comes to our friends and other acquaintances, we might be able to avoid the ones who annoy us or rub us the wrong way, people we don’t like for whatever reason, but we don’t choose our family.

I’ve been convinced for quite a while now, that it is precisely those relationships that I would not have chosen for myself, that have actually challenged me and helped me to grow the most. Think of Proverbs 27:17, “As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.” If it were all left up to us and our own choice, most of us choose to avoid conflict, to avoid people that show us our weaknesses. We avoid people who annoy us or tell us what to do. In a healthy family, though, these things are unavoidable. In my family, I had six brothers and two sisters, and I remember fighting a lot with my siblings. And I don’t think we fought because we were bad kids—now maybe my parents would disagree—but we fought because that’s part of growing and learning for kids, and hopefully through those experiences we were also able to learn some better ways of dealing with conflict.

Even as we celebrate the Holy Family of Jesus, Mary, and Joseph, the most perfect human family that has ever graced this earth, we hear in the Gospel that they had their trials of their own. Joseph’s sleep was regularly interrupted by messages from angels, telling him when and where to move, to protect this new Christ Child and His Mother. I wonder if Joseph ever had second thoughts as he traveled on the road. What if he had stuck to his original plan, disregarded the angel’s message and simply divorced Mary and washed his hands of the whole situation? He could have stayed in Bethlehem. He wouldn’t have had to go to Egypt. He wouldn’t have to move to Nazareth.

Whether he would have chosen this life for himself, had he known all that it would eventually entail, and the many difficulties that he would have to face as head of the Holy Family, even the rumors that would circulate about himself and about his wife, this was the life that God chose for him. This was the Family that God chose for St. Joseph, and he could trust that God would provide what he needed at every stage of their journey together.

When the Bishop called me and asked if I’d be willing to move four hours away from Sioux Falls, five hours away from my parent’s home and my hometown, I didn’t know and I still don’t know what’s all going to be involved during my time as pastor of these parishes. If you were given the choice, you probably wouldn’t have chosen me as your new pastor. He’s too young. Too inexperienced. Too rigid, backwards, and traditional. But we are family now. We don’t choose our family. God does. And God will provide the graces we need to work together, to grow together, to learn together. Hopefully, to grow closer in union with Jesus Christ together. The Church is meant to be a holy family. Each parish and diocese is meant to be a holy family. There might be other people even here this evening, sitting in other pews of this church, maybe in the same pew, whom you might not especially like or agree with all the time, and you might not want to spend much time with them, but you are family. And God brought us together. To learn from one another, to test one another, to challenge one another, to grow in holiness and virtue together. To grow in our recognition and love for the Truth of Jesus Christ.

Every healthy family, every holy family in this world has joys and sorrows, conflict and resolution, pains and struggles along with victories. Real growth does not happen without pain. And real love does not develop without a commitment to one another through the difficult times. It’s good for us to be stuck with people whom we find difficult to love, because then our love can grow stronger and more genuine. For parents and children alike and fellow parishioners, there are countless opportunities for us to begin to love even as God loves, not because of anything the other person can do for me, not because the other person is necessarily deserving of love. God doesn’t love us because. He just loves us. He made us and He chooses to love us. Our own families, all those relationships that we perhaps would not have chosen for ourselves, these are the messy classrooms of learning love, of becoming holy, of growing in patience because these crazy people force us to really practice patience. And as we really choose to love those that God has placed in our lives, hopefully we’ll discover, as I have, that they are really better for us than any family we would have chosen for ourselves.

Jesus, Mary, and Joseph, pray for our families, pray for our parishes, and for the whole family of God. Teach us—and help us to continue to grow—through the conflict, through the messiness and chaos of our lives. Teach us that God the Father’s love for us is unchanging, unflinching, unwavered. Teach us to love like Him.

Pastoral as Christ is Pastoral

Homily, Ordinary Time Sunday 15C

Everyone loves a good storyteller, but a good teacher often goes unappreciated for many years. The goal of a storyteller can be merely to entertain and amuse, to hold our attention long enough for a good laugh, but a good teacher can change the way that we see things and the decisions that we make for the rest of our lives. Jesus in the Gospel is both Storyteller and Teacher. He often teaches the crowds using parables, using short stories and images, but the purpose of the parables is not primarily to entertain. Instead, the parables of Jesus confront us with decisions that we’ve made or that we’ve failed to make, the decisions to which God is constantly calling us, to surrender everything to His care, to Him who feeds every bird of the sky and who clothes every lily of the field. Jesus calls us to deny ourselves, take up our crosses, and follow Him, rather than following our own ways or the ways of the world. To sell all that we have to buy the treasure in the field and the pearl of great price. Or like the Good Samaritan in today’s Gospel, to drop everything to take care of the person in need by the side of the road. How have we responded? Have we responded to Jesus? Do we live our lives for God and for others? Or do we still follow our own ways and the ways of this passing world?

When I was in seminary studying for the priesthood, and still today after four years as a priest, there are many strategies for ministry described as being “pastoral,” strategies for shepherding the people of God, gently, patiently, ambiguously. To be honest, I’ve found many of these strategies to be rather laughable and pointless, meaningless when we actually examine them and find that they’re very different from what we see Jesus actually doing in the Gospel.

One popular phrase today for ministry is “to meet people where they’re at.” Now this is all fine and good and even necessary. Obviously, communication is impossible if we don’t bother to start from some common ground. But “meeting people where they’re at” and “smelling like the sheep” is rather pointless if we don’t ever bother to lead them anywhere. If a sheep is headed in the direction of selfishness and the pains of hell, when a sheep is headed over the edge of a cliff, only a very bad and careless shepherd would simply reassure the sheep headed for destruction, saying, “Way to go! God loves you. He cares for you. Have a nice trip, as you fall into this pit.” Yes, Jesus ate with tax collectors and sinners; He received and did not condemn the adulterous woman; He healed many of the sick and forgave their sins. But Jesus would often tell them, “Go, and sin no more, so that nothing worse may happen to you” (Cf. John 5:14; 8:11). And Jesus offers His own behavior as a model for life and true freedom when He says, “Follow Me.”

Just think of how this parable of the Good Samaritan would play out if the Samaritan would have used only the “pastoral” strategy of merely meeting the victim of robbers where he was at. The Samaritan sees this man wounded and ailing in the ditch, and so he decides to go and be with him, to lay down beside him in the ditch, to meet him where he’s at. So the Samaritan lays down beside him and says to him, “God loves you. God is merciful. I love you. Isn’t this great that we’re here together in this ditch? That you don’t have to suffer alone?”

When we have the ability to bring people to a better place, to greener pastures, to a hotel instead of a ditch, but we don’t, because our only concern is meeting them where they’re at… If we leave them in their misery and desperate, sinful situations without ever bothering to show them the way out to a more abundant life in Christ, this is not love or pastoral concern. This is laziness and indifference. We just want to get along, to be positive and avoid uncomfortable conversations, to avoid calling sin what it is. Any strategy of ministry that claims to be “pastoral” but also allows people to remain in ignorance, to remain in sinful, harmful situations without offering a better Way and greener pastures, this is not what we learn from Christ, our Good Shepherd.

If God does not actually offer us a better Way—even if this Way seems more difficult at first—if His Way is not truly more healthy and fulfilling than what the world and our own selfish desires offer us, then “salvation” doesn’t have any real meaning for us in this life. We were made to know the truth and to be made free by following the truth, the Truth who is Jesus Christ. God made us for more than just stumbling blindly through this life, being wounded and wounding others through our continual habits of sin. God offers us more in the life-giving commandments that He revealed to Moses and in all the teachings of His Catholic Church. That a life free from selfishness, drunkenness, sexual immorality, hatred, lies, violence, contraception, gossip, insults, pornography, laziness, and neglect of our relationships, a life lived in obedience to God and in accord with who He made us to be, this is truly a better and more abundant life, and it is made possible for us by God’s grace.

As we approach Jesus, the Good Shepherd, the Good Teacher, the Good Samaritan, present in this Eucharist, may He set us free from all the lies that keep us bound, from the desires that enslave us to this passing world. Lord Jesus, meet us where we are, but don’t leave us there in our misery. Bring us to greener pastures. Help us to leave behind our sins and to embrace Your more abundant life.

Expect the Cross

Homily, Eastertide Sunday 5C

Just last night, I was driving back from the Graduation Mass of O’Gorman High School held at the Elmen Center. Just within that short distance, I observed and came up behind not one, but two separate cars at different traffic lights that after the light turned green, these cars continued to sit, stationary, at the intersection for several, very long seconds, before finally moving through and getting out of my way. I avoid driving when I can, I think because it is often a near occasion of sin for me, to see so many drivers not paying attention to the road. In human life, our own expectations play a large part in how we deal with what happens to us and the amount of frustration that we experience on a daily basis. You see, I can tell myself time and time again, that people are really not very good drivers, that they’re often not paying much attention to their surroundings. I can tell myself this, but part of my own expectation is still that they really should, and so when they’re not, I get angry, I get frustrated. Things are not how they are supposed to be. When our experience falls short of our expectation, we get mad.

Of course, the same thing also happens in our spiritual lives, in our relationship with God. Many of us, whether we really think about it or not, whether we’d be able to admit it or not, many of us have very strange expectations when it comes to the spiritual life. Many of us buy in to a sort of ‘prosperity gospel,’ thinking to ourselves, “If I’m a good person, if I follow the commandments, follow the Church’s teachings, send my kids to Catholic school—whatever it might be—if I do what I’m supposed to do, then God is supposed to bless me. God is supposed to protect me and my loved ones from anything bad or difficult from ever happening to us. If I do what I’m supposed to do, then God should do what He’s supposed to do and make life easy for us.” Now, we wouldn’t always put it in these exact words, but when some obstacle or difficulty arises and we immediately start to question, “What have I done wrong? Why is God allowing this to happen to me or to my loved one?” It seems pretty clear what our expectations really are.

In our first reading, we hear how Sts. Paul and Barnabas “strengthened the spirits of the disciples and exhorted them to persevere in the faith.” How did they do this, what did they say to them? They said, “It is necessary for us to undergo many hardships to enter the kingdom of God.” Not usually what we would think of as very encouraging words. You, must, suffer, to enter God’s kingdom. Great. They didn’t say, It is likely, or it is advisable for us to endure hardships. No, they said, “It is necessary for us to undergo many hardships to enter the kingdom of God.” Jesus Himself asked the disciples on the road to Emmaus, “Was it not necessary for the Christ to suffer these things and so enter into His glory?” In another place, He says, “Whoever does not deny himself, take up His cross daily and follow Me cannot be My disciple.” Jesus never promises us an easy life. He promises an abundant life, but not an easy one. “How wide the gate and easy the road that leads to destruction, and there are many that go that way. But how narrow the gate and constricted the path that leads to life.”

How realistic are our own expectations for the spiritual life? Do our expectations actually line up with the words of Scripture and with what Jesus has told us so many times? “Deny yourself, take up your cross, and follow Me,” says the Lord. Jesus is clear about what our expectations should be. No one carries a cross unless they’re headed towards their own crucifixion. So why are we so surprised when we encounter obstacles, when we encounter many hardships in our following of the footsteps of Christ, who walked the Way of the Cross? “It is necessary for us to undergo many hardships to enter the kingdom of God.” Don’t get mad. Don’t get frustrated. Expect it, and ask God for every grace to grow in patience, to grow in perseverance, to grow in appreciation for the share in Christ’s own Cross that God entrusts to us.

In giving us a new commandment, Jesus tells us, “As I have loved you, so you also should love one another.” What does the love of Christ look like? Jesus willingly suffered and died, out of love for you. If we are not willing to sacrifice, to suffer for one another, we shouldn’t pretend to be following Christ’s commandment to love as He has loved us. Expect the cross. If we expect the cross, it will not overwhelm us when we encounter suffering. And like the Apostles who went before us, we may even be able to rejoice in our sufferings out of love for Jesus Christ. To Him be glory and honor forever.

One Shepherd, One Flock for All

Homily, Eastertide Sunday 4C

Today is Good Shepherd Sunday. What images come to mind when we think of shepherds? We often think of very peaceful and pleasant scenes: green pastures, gentle breezes, streams of water, sheep grazing quietly on the hillside; or we picture the shepherds kneeling at the manger scene in front of the baby Jesus. But the actual life of a shepherd was hardly ever comfortable or easy, and often not very peaceful. Shepherds at the time of Jesus and in His neck of the woods lived tough lives. They stayed with the animals day and night, often enduring adverse weather, the heat of the day and cold of the night. They had to be watchful of dangers from predators, storms, and rustlers. And they had to be mindful of the inattentive and wandering sheep that so easily could get lost or get themselves into trouble.

To be a shepherd and to keep the sheep safe from the many dangers of this world was and is hard work. Jesus says, “My sheep hear my voice. I know them, and they follow Me.” What does it mean to be one of His sheep? Are we confident that we really belong to Jesus Christ? “My sheep hear my voice. I know them, and they follow Me.” If we don’t hear and recognize the voice of Christ, if we don’t take the time to listen to what God is saying to us, and if we aren’t really following Jesus in our daily lives, then we’re following some other shepherd, or we’ve struck out onto our own path. There’s an old saying that whoever chooses to direct himself has a fool for a guide.

But many people wonder, do we even really need Jesus anymore? You’ve probably heard people say on more than one occasion things like, “Well, he doesn’t go to church anymore, but he’s really the nicest person you’ll ever meet.” Or, “Well, you know, he doesn’t really believe in God, but he’s such a good person, and isn’t that what really matters? As long as someone’s a good person, they’ll go to heaven in the end, right?” But this is not what we hear in God’s Revelation of Himself and in the witness of Sacred Scripture. It’s not enough to “be a good person,” to do my best to follow what I think is right. From the beginning God is always calling us into relationship with Himself. To be part of His family, part of His “one flock.” And Jesus is the fullness of God’s Revelation. Jesus says things like, “I am the Way and the Truth and the Life. No one comes to the Father except through Me.” “Whoever believes in Me and is baptized will be saved. Whoever does not believe in Me will be condemned.” Jesus is not optional.

One very popular and pervasive attitude today is religious indifference. “Who’s to say? There are lots of religions, lots of ways to enlightenment, to God, to heaven.” There’s a lot of focus on the mere possibility of salvation for those who never explicitly believe in Christ or live in communion with the Church founded by Him. But our focus should be on what God has positively revealed and commanded. The sacraments of His Church are still the only ordinary means revealed by God for our salvation. Speculation about other possibilities is often motivated by the fact that there are many in the world today who are not Christian, who are not Catholic, there are many atheists and agnostics, and we rightly condemn any violence committed in the name of religion, but another motivation is to try and sooth our own consciences for our lack of zeal, our complacency and unwillingness to take risks to proclaim Jesus Christ as the One Savior of the world. We make excuses to just get along, to remain silent, and shirk our duty as Christians to proclaim the Gospel to every creature.

St. Paul didn’t mince any words in our first reading, when He warns His fellow Jews that without believing in the Messiah God sent for them, they risked the loss of eternal life. “It was necessary that the word of God be spoken to you first, but since you reject it and condemn yourselves as unworthy of eternal life, we now turn to the Gentiles.” Judaism is incomplete, as long as it fails to recognize the Messiah promised by God through the Prophets, Jesus the Christ. The message of Muhammad in the 7th century is incompatible with the Gospel. Muhammad was a false prophet who has led many astray. We need to proclaim Jesus Christ to Muslims, to Jews, to all peoples, to fallen-away Catholics. There is one Lamb who stands before the throne of God in heaven. One Lamb who was slain for our sins and is risen from the dead for our salvation and for the salvation of all. It’s time to stop making excuses for ourselves, and time to start sharing the Good News.

Fear God, Not Man

Homily, Ordinary Time Sunday 6C

During this past week, there’s been some news in the Catholic world, but I won’t say that I find it all that encouraging. For those who don’t know, the former Cardinal Theodore McCarrick has been laicized, which means that he is no longer allowed to celebrate Mass or the other sacraments and should now be addressed and referred to as “Mr. McCarrick.” Ordination, of course, is permanent and cannot be removed, but the Church regulates the exercise of priestly power and of preaching, so as far as is possible, McCarrick has been removed from among the Church’s clergy. Already last summer, allegations against him of abuse became public and were found to be credible and substantiated. I definitely agree with the Vatican’s decision to laicize McCarrick, but I have no illusions that this is actually “a clear signal” that the Church will not tolerate abuse.

I don’t forget that he really should have been laicized several decades ago. I don’t forget that there is still rampant cowardice and institutionalism among his fellow clergy, those who covered for him, and those who allowed or even actively promoted his advancement as a bishop, as an archbishop, and as a cardinal of the holy Church of God, those who enabled him to remain in office long after the first big round of scandals broke in 2002. What I find dangerous and incredibly stupid and naïve about some of the reporting that I’ve heard on this, is that there are those eager to portray this as the end of the affair, finally, the end of a sad chapter of the Church’s history and the beginning of a new chapter of trust and optimism. The same thing that was said back in 2002, with new directives and safe environment training. “Oh, but we really mean it this time.” I will believe that the Vatican is taking this seriously when I actually see negative consequences for those who feign ignorance, those who failed to investigate questions when they knew they wouldn’t like the answers, those who stood by to get ahead. These are not shepherds. These are thieves and robbers that allowed wolves to have their way with the sheep.

The readings today could not be more clear. Those who do not trust in God above all, those who do not fear God more than any human being will always make compromises to just get along. They will serve their own appetites, their own desires for popularity, for ease and comfort. In my first years of the priesthood, I had to make a decision. Would I follow the subtle temptations of using the priesthood to serve my own ends? Would I remain silent on certain topics that would be difficult to communicate, difficult for people to receive? Would I fail to admonish fellow priests and clergy out of fear of how they would react or how that could affect my “career path”? Or, would I follow Christ and the laws of His Church, even if this should prove to be unpopular?

We like to think that we can have it both ways, that there will never be any real conflict between the love of God and love for my neighbor. But there are conflicts. There are times when we have to decide, Will I serve God first, above all? To correct, to admonish, to discipline, even if that means that as a parent you won’t be your child’s best friend? “Blessed are you when people hate you, and when they exclude and insult you, and denounce your name as evil on account of the Son of Man.” On account of your faithful following of Jesus Christ. “Your reward will be great in heaven, for their ancestors treated the prophets in the same way.” But “woe to you when all speak well of you, for their ancestors treated the false prophets in this way.”

Mr. McCarrick and his allies have shown us the rotten fruit of trying to have it both ways. The Way of the Cross, the way of discipleship and following Jesus demands a decision from us. Will we serve God above all, even when that brings trials and persecution? Or will we put our own desires ahead of God’s, to just get along, and to enjoy a false and empty peace and complacency? “If for this life only we have hoped in Christ, we are the most pitiable people of all.” This is not the end of the McCarrick scandal. If those who are able continue to neglect correcting what needs correction, to fail in disciplining those who need discipline, the Church will continue to suffer for it. But the solution is for all of us to decide today—and every day of our lives—to serve God first, above all. To have no fear of men. So that at the end of our lives, we will have confidence to stand before the judgment seat of almighty God, and to say to Him, “I strove always to live at peace with all men, but I did not shy away from the conflict and the strife that comes from remaining faithful to Your Word above all.”

Overcoming Habits of Sin

Homily, Advent Sunday 2C

Of all the sports I got involved with back when I was still in school, I would have to say that basketball was always my favorite to play, even though I probably wasn’t the best at it. And of all the sports I played, basketball was also one of the most demanding and most clearly disciplined. Every undesirable action had a clear consequence. Every missed free-throw, every missed layup, every stolen ball or intercepted pass corresponded to a certain number of laps at the end of practice. And if we weren’t hustling, running as fast as we could during practice, we would have more running to do at the end. Every undesirable action had a clear consequence that would be felt, in order to motivate greater effort, mental toughness, building skills and virtues.

I’ve been wondering lately whether we don’t make much progress in our spiritual lives because we don’t make use of any clear plan involving real consequences. Discipline, training, from which we get the word “discipleship” is a good thing in just a very basic sense, and if we think what it means to be an adult is to finally be without discipline, we’re really missing out on a lot of opportunity for continued growth. If discipline is just a tool for parents to train their children, or for coaches to train athletes, if we’ve lived a very undisciplined life just because we don’t have someone actively on our case or breathing down our necks, we’re likely to have lots of hills and valleys, winding roads that need to be straightened out in us.

Scripture often talks about the need to receive the discipline of Wisdom, the training that comes from the Word of God. Jesus Himself tells us to take His yoke upon us and to learn from Him, to be trained by Him. So when it comes to our sins and habits of sin, perhaps things that we’ve struggled with for years and years, do we have any real plan to work against them? To level those hills and fill in the valleys of our own words and actions? When we’re dealing with real disorder in our hearts, with strongholds of sin and evil spirits, we’re not gonna make any progress just playing patty cake, wishing away our bad habits. Moving hills, filling in valleys, and straightening roads doesn’t happen with just ‘positive thinking.’ It takes digging, dragging, working, and being held accountable. We need to allow ourselves to really feel the consequences of our sins so that we’ll learn to avoid them.

What does this look like? Let’s say there’s one sin in particular you want to really work on overcoming. Maybe it’s gossip and detraction or bullying, maybe it’s eating or drinking too much, maybe it’s pornography or using our time at work for things unrelated to our work, maybe it’s missing Mass on Sundays or days of obligation. Whatever it is, you decide not only that you’re going to go to Confession regularly—to be accountable to God and His Church, and to receive the grace and strength that come from God—but you also decide that you’re going to take on an additional penance whenever you fall into that sin. Something that you will actually feel, something that will make you uncomfortable, an actual inconvenience.

So maybe you give up your favorite food for the following three days. Or you don’t use the Internet on your phone for three days. Or you wake up early, or go to bed early for the next three days, or do a certain number of pushups or sit-ups, whenever you fall into the sin that you are trying to overcome. If we really stayed consistent with imposing these consequences on ourselves, do you think it might motivate a change in our behavior? Now to keep ourselves consistent and following through on our resolutions, it is extremely helpful, if not essential, to have someone else checking in with us, keeping us accountable. And they don’t necessarily need to know what behavior or sin we are trying to overcome, but just to hold us to the consequences that we’ve chosen.

Any progress in overcoming sin in our lives is made possible by the grace of Jesus Christ who offered everything on the Cross for our salvation. But grace is not magic. Grace does not do violence to our human nature. It calls for real cooperation at every level of our existence, including the fundamental benefits of discipline and training, imposing consequences that we actually experience as negative and difficult things, when we find ourselves continuing to choose what we should not choose. As we continue this Advent season, Jesus offers us His yoke to refresh us, His discipline and training to set us free. What are we really willing to do to prepare the way of the Lord, to truly repent and turn our backs on the sins that have enslaved us? Come, Lord Jesus. Come and set us free.

Following the Master

Homily, Ordinary Time Sunday 24B

Today, we reach the turning point in Mark’s Gospel. Up to this point, everything’s been going great. Jesus has gathered His disciples, and with great authority He has been teaching, casting out demons, and healing every disease among the people. Crowds of people are always following Him just to hear Him and to get close to Him. They even recognize Him as a great Prophet, and last week as He healed the deaf-mute, the crowds exclaimed, “He has done all things well.” Today, St. Peter even recognizes Jesus as the Christ, the promised Messiah who would bring salvation. Not everyone was so happy about Jesus, though, and there had been frequent disagreements with the Pharisees and the ruling powers. Today, Jesus spells it out for us, that He doesn’t just bring a naïve ‘prosperity gospel,’ or promise that once we begin to follow Him all our problems and sufferings will go away. Jesus begins to make His way toward Jerusalem, where “the Son of Man must suffer greatly and be rejected by the elders, the chief priests, and the scribes, and be killed, and rise after three days. He spoke this openly.”

Jesus tells us plainly that the Christian Way is not an easy way. There is no easy way. In this life, suffering is unavoidable, but there are two ways that we can approach it. There is the narrow way of following Christ, of freely accepting the suffering that we meet in this life, out of love and obedience for God our Father. And then there is the wide way that many travel, of rebelling against any thought of suffering or loss or limitation, of taking Christ aside and rebuking him, saying, “God forbid that such things should happen to You or to us.” How many of us, the moment we face any trial or touch of suffering, how many of us find ourselves with St. Peter, opposing Christ because we think, “not as God does but as human beings do”? How many of us make ourselves into enemies of the Cross of Christ the moment that our faith is tested? There are two ways, and neither one is easy. We like to think that this second way of rebellion and self-indulgence is easier than actually embracing the crosses of this life, but rebellion and sin bring untold sufferings and deep emptiness that no human soul was meant to endure.

It seems quite popular today to think that we should be able to solve any problem just by being more positive and encouraging. That especially priests should just be smiling all the time, saying how wonderful everything is. And as we look back on history, so many of the Saints and Martyrs for the faith were just too blunt and insensitive in how they communicated the truth. If only they had been more careful to say what they needed to say in a way that their listeners could receive it, perhaps they wouldn’t have had to die. Even Jesus Himself could have kept His persecutors from putting Him to death had He just been more pastorally sensitive, more willing to “accompany” the Pharisees and the Sadducees.

Sadly, I’ve gotten this sense even from other priests, that the Saints were just too extreme, instead of coming to the much more obvious conclusion that we today are cowards. And that if we are trying so desperately to avoid the crosses of the priesthood, the crosses that come with being a prophet in today’s culture of religious indifference, if we are striving to avoid upsetting anyone with a homily against sin, because that would be negative, or having to actually say “No” as a pastor, or to educate and bring people in the direction of the Church’s actual teachings and laws, if even priests are doing everything we can to avoid suffering and conflict, what usually happens is not that we find creative ways of communicating the truth without upsetting anyone. Instead, we simply learn to avoid certain topics altogether, whether we realize it or not. “No servant is greater than his Master.” If they persecuted Christ, they will persecute His disciples. If the world hated Jesus, it will also hate any follower of Jesus, when we’re actually true to following Him.

I think it’s about time that we stop thinking ourselves better than the Saints and Martyrs of past centuries, and instead, start to actually imitate them, to imitate their passion for Jesus Christ, their unquenchable zeal for the honor of His Name and for the spreading of the Gospel. Jesus assures us with St. Peter that the cross and persecution is unavoidable, so let’s stop trying to water down our Catholic faith to make it more palatable and popular. Let’s offer it to the world at its full strength, and witness how Jesus Christ can change hearts and transform lives. I’m tired of being a priest for a Church that seems ashamed of her own teachings and sacred tradition. Jesus told His Apostles, “You will be hated by all because of me, but have no fear of them. Even the hairs of your head are numbered. So take courage. I have conquered the world.” Speak out boldly in the Name of Christ, and you will not lose your reward.

To Hear and Speak as God Wills

Homily, Ordinary Time Sunday 23B

By now, I’ve lost track of how many baptisms I’ve celebrated as a priest. One part of the ritual for baptizing children is inspired directly from the Gospel passage we just heard. As most of us know from experience, infants and little children are not very different from the deaf and mute man in today’s Gospel. Hearing with their ears, they understand very little, and even when they begin to understand, they still might not want to listen very well, or they pretend not to hear, and it’s usually quite some time before they’re able to speak plainly. So, after baptizing the child, the priest or deacon touches the ears and mouth of the child with his thumb, while saying, “The Lord Jesus made the deaf hear and the dumb speak. May he soon touch your ears to receive his word, and your mouth to proclaim his faith, to the praise and glory of God the Father.” I’ve always considered this a beautiful gesture and prayer, even for those of us who have been able to hear and to speak for some time. When you take into account everything else we hear, how often do we really listen to the Word of God? And with everything else that we say, how often do we actually proclaim our faith in Christ, “to the praise and glory of God the Father”?

These gifts of hearing and speaking are easily taken for granted, but if you’ve ever experienced hearing loss or the loss of your voice, or have spent some time with someone else who has trouble hearing or speaking, it’s amazing how difficult it can be to communicate even the simplest of things. As our second reading on Sundays, we’ve been having passages from the letter of St. James, but there’s one important part of his letter that won’t be read. In James chapter 3, he discusses the power of speech. He compares the tongue to the rudder of a ship, that even though the tongue seems to be one of the smallest members of the body, what we say can make a huge difference in the direction that our lives take.

Think of how many times we sin on a daily basis by listening to things we know we shouldn’t, or by misusing the gift of speech, saying things we shouldn’t or by not speaking up when we actually should. Everyone realizes that gossip is sinful and can make for a toxic social environment, but how often do we willingly listen or even seek it out to indulge our curiosities? How often do we spread to others what they really don’t need to know? The spreading of false or unverified rumors is not the only way that we sin in this area. Even when we share things that are true or that we’ve observed firsthand, when we speak about the faults of others without it really being necessary to do so, talking negatively about people behind their backs and harming their reputation in the eyes of those who have no connection and no responsibility to correct those faults, this is the sin of detraction.

Something we might ask ourselves is if the person I’m talking about were standing right here with us, would I still be saying what I’m saying about them? If I’ve never bothered to confront the person directly about it, then I haven’t done what I can to remedy the situation. So much of the situation in parts of the Church right now or for the past decades comes from lots of talk and rumors and gossip while so many bishops and priests were unwilling to correct or confront one another directly about their sins or crimes, unwilling to make any difficult decisions, even when it came to their grave responsibility of protecting the most vulnerable among us. The culture needs to change. The culture of empty talk, complaining, gossip, and detraction, without any real action or correction, is not healthy and not helpful.

Jesus wants to open our ears to hear His word of truth and move our hearts to act on it. He wants to open our mouths to proclaim His faith, plainly and with confidence to those around us, to the praise and glory of God the Father. These are the sacred purposes for which God has entrusted to us the gifts of hearing and speaking. What a shame to put these gifts instead to sinful purposes, to listen to empty talk, to spread falsehood or detraction, or to remain silent when God is calling us to speak up. How often do we remain silent just to avoid conflict and making waves, to avoid uncomfortable conversations? Jesus has opened our ears. He has touched our mouths. He has given us the grace to use these gifts according to His will, for healthy communication in our relationships and in our families, for the purification and for the building up of His Church.

A Bitter Pill

Homily, Ordinary Time Sunday 20B

During this past week, I’ve been having trouble with my sinuses. I am getting better, but I just want to apologize up front in case I need to pause for a coughing fit at some point during this Mass. Dealing with illness, though, brings to mind that taking medicine is not always a pleasant experience. I think especially of parents trying to give medicine to their children. I’ve been at my sister’s house a few times when they’ve had to give eardrops to my niece. And thinking back to my own childhood, I don’t think I was ever a big fan of cough syrup, no matter what they said the flavor was supposed to be. But I’m glad that most parents care enough about their children to make sure that they take their medicine, whether they want to or not.

Too many people today seem to act as though life can just be flowers and sunshine, without any hard work, clouds or rain, any real discipline, or anything that would be unpleasant. That to avoid the foolishness, ignorance, and debauchery that our first two readings warn us about, and to embrace the wisdom of God that leads to genuine happiness, we often act like all we need to really do is follow our own desires, just to be our genuine selves, and to stay positive, to affirm the good without ever having to condemn the darkness and sin. Of course, we hear something very different from Jesus Christ, whose summary message was so often, “Deny yourself, take up your cross, and follow Me.”

Sadly, over the years, even many bishops and priests have adopted a very naïve and un-Christian outlook for ministry and for the Church’s place in the world. Just keep smiling, making jokes, making friends with the world. To really save souls and to advance the cause of the Church, we need to be popular, to gather as many people as we can into the Church, and to do that, we need to be more positive and make the Church’s teachings more palatable. We’ll avoid talking about the difficult teachings. We’ll preach mercy and tolerance, joy and happiness, but let’s not get too hung up on condemning any real sins or asking that people actually change their habits and behaviors in daily life. We’ll tell stories and jokes to entertain, and get some music at Mass that really gets their toes tapping. We’ll conform the Church’s prayer to what the people want, instead of asking anyone to conform their lives to Christ and to His Church.

If you’ve been following the news in the Catholic world recently and have wondered how things could have gotten to this point, or how they continued for so long without really being corrected by those who had the responsibility to do so, I am convinced that it’s nothing all that new. It’s human sinfulness. It’s deplorable, it’s evil. It needs to be rooted out. But it’s not all that surprising, when you consider that for so long it has been fashionable to have compassion and endless tolerance instead of simple and swift correction and accountability. Don’t judge. Don’t condemn. Mercy without any real justice or repentance.

We become comfortable with our sins and make excuses for ourselves and for those around us. Not surprising then, that bishops and priests, even at the highest levels of the Church, have often done the same and covered for each other, rather than actually defending their flock and the most vulnerable. When we care more about our appearance and reputation in this world than about how God sees us, is it any wonder that so many within the hierarchy seem to care more about the Church’s reputation in the public square rather than having transparency and justice, and preparing for the accounting that we’ll have to give in the sight of God at the end of our lives?

Now of course, we should expect more from the Church’s shepherds than that they just follow the same trends that we see in the world. But the medicine and the remedy is not pleasant. In order to give us the Remedy of His own Flesh and Blood in the Eucharist, Jesus had to endure His bitter Passion and Death. In this life, it is not possible to avoid everything that is unpleasant, and insisting on trying to avoid it only tends to make things far worse. As a Church, we need to stop avoiding the unpleasant medicine. We need to do penance, fasting, prayer, discipline. We need to start addressing sin with clarity and firmness. Instead of trying to make God in our own image, we need to strive to conform our lives to Him. Please pray for the Church. Pray that those who are guilty or complicit receive just punishment, that those who are innocent will be defended by God, and that all of us come to follow Christ more faithfully and put far from us the foolishness of this passing world.